I feel for her, but can’t be available all the time. I don’t know how to help her without compromising my own wellbeing
My friend is kind and popular, but lonely. She is in her mid-30s and single and it’s all she can focus on. She is upset when no one is available to do things with her and wants a man or her friends to fill the gaps. While I feel for her, I have my own stresses and a fairly new relationship, family and other friendships to maintain – I can’t fulfil her needs all the time. If I don’t see her for a week or so, I know a call will come and she will be upset if I say no. She is negative to be around so it makes it hard to want to find the time. I feel selfish, but sometimes I’d rather use a free evening for myself. How can I help without compromising my own wellbeing?
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