A 39-YEAR-old woman is debating have another baby with her ex as she feels her time is “running out”.
Taking to Mumsnet, she says she dated her ex for five years, but they split because she “wasn’t the one for him”.
They already have one child together, but parted ways during her pregnancy.
Taking to the parenting forum for advice, she said: “[I] kept making up excuses for the fact that he was dragging his feet regarding commitment.
“After 3 years and because I was pressuring him, he agreed to have a baby.
“When I brought up marriage (again) he said having a baby was an even bigger commitment and that made sense to me.
“During my pregnancy I spent a lot of time reflecting on my life and finally saw things for what they were.
“He was not in love with me and didn’t want to marry me so I broke up.
“It was messy and painful, he went MIA [missing in action] for months and I resented him for that, for failing our daughter.”
Despite their rocky past, they’ve managed to work things through for the sake of their daughter.
The mum-of-one added: “Now we are back in a good place, co-parenting and getting along. The thing is I desperately want another baby. I’m 39 going on 40.
“It’s been 3 years since our breakup and I wanted to meet someone, to build a relationship and maybe have baby #2 but nothing…not even a fling. I know I will find that person, eventually but it could be tomorrow or in ten years!
“If I want another child, I don’t have much more time left so I’m really considering having it with him.”
And she revealed that her ex agreed with her.
She said: “We talked about it and he is totally on board with the idea. Still, there is no chance for us to work out as a couple so we would have the baby and co parent as we currently do but that’s it.”
Hundreds of people have waded in on her situation – with mixed results.
One person branded her “crazy and selfish”, whiles others said she should “seek counselling”.
This person said: “Agree it’s crazy and selfish, it’s your wants over what’s best for the child.
“Having pressured him the first time you think we would have learnt to say no especially as you are no longer together.”
Another person said: “Why would you want to bring another child into the world with a man who only impregnated you once to pacify you?”
And this person wrote: “What happens if you get pregnant and he meets someone else and decides not to bother seeing your existing child?”
But some people supported the idea, saying: “I honestly think that if you’re both on board with the idea, then why not?”
Another said: “I’d do it. If you co parent well and get on, seems fine to me.”
A third agreed, writing: “They’ll both have the same father and any subsequent relationships for you won’t have the added pressure of you craving a baby from date 1.”
And lots of people asked if she went through with it, exactly how the child would be conceived.
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